Finding Peace Within Ourselves

Finding Peace Within Ourselves

Our recovery work revolves around the process of finding peace within ourselves. Without inner peace, we’ll continue to be influenced by the issues driving our addictive patterns. We’ll continue to hurt ourselves, abandon and neglect ourselves, and self-destruct. We’ll continue to be self-defeating and self-sabotaging. Inner peace is about coming to terms with all of the difficult aspects of ourselves, including our shame, our insecurities and our wounds.

Shame is one of the most debilitating emotions that many of us tend to carry for much of our lives. We feel guilt and shame for things that happened years ago, often in our childhoods. We even feel ashamed about things we had no control over, things that were done to us, and things we were not responsible for. Our shame makes us feel inadequate, unworthy and inferior. We can feel so bad about ourselves that we start to hate ourselves.

Our insecurities are all the ways in which we reject, judge and criticize ourselves. We see our imperfections and flaws as defects in our character, as moral failings. Like with shame, our insecurity makes us develop crippling self-hatred. We don’t love and accept ourselves. We constantly compare ourselves to other people and hate ourselves even more when we don’t measure up. We refuse to see all the wonderful things about ourselves – our positive attributes, our successes and accomplishments, our gifts and strengths, all the things other people love and admire about us.

Making peace with our wounds is the process of clearing away old baggage that’s weighing us down, limiting our progress and preventing us from healing. We carry our wounds with us as part of who we are. Some of us allow these wounds to define us. We self-identify with them. We allow them to make us feel like victims. We allow them to overtake our sense of self, our thoughts and feelings, and therefore our lives. We refuse to confront these wounds. We feel controlled and burdened by them.

How do we go about achieving inner peace? There are countless helpful practices we can incorporate into our healing and recovery work. We can meditate, practice visualization and walking meditation, and try other mindfulness exercises such as mindful listening and mindful observation. We can work with a therapist and attend support group meetings. We can practice yoga, energy healing and other physical healing practices that help us align our minds, bodies and spirits. We can journal or use creative expression such as songwriting to unearth our inner pain and help us come to terms with it. The more we confront our shame, insecurities and wounds, the more we can process them and all the pain associated with them, the more we heal and reclaim our power from the burdensome things that have been overpowering us and holding us back.

No two cases of addiction are alike. We go through a detailed process to determine the proper treatment methods for each individual patient, with their recovery goals and timelines in mind. Call or text The Beach House at (310) 564-2761 today for more information.

Kimberly James

I am the founder and owner of The Beach House Treatment Center, The White House, Indigo Ranch, Sweetwater Mesa and Beach House Center for Wellness, all in Malibu, California.